Sauce Saturday: FlOw

FlOw is a video game where you play as basically a microscopic water creature. Info about the game and it’s history here. It is a game, an art piece, and an experience.

Image is a screen capture from the game FlOw. Image is white microscopic creatures swimming through a dark space. Larger white creature blurry in the background.
Beautiful game in visuals and sound. Note: the creature in the background is on another level.

You move through your two dimensional playing area as a microscopic water creature. You eat and defend yourself and grow and evolve. The mechanic that really changed the way I relate to my thinking though, was the change in dimension. The level up. There is a spot in each level where if you touch it you will jump dimensions in scope and scale. (You will hang out with bigger or smaller creatures.) The game will still show the other levels very subtly in the fore and background.

Years after playing this game I found myself thinking about how our lives have different dimensions, and the concerns and details of each don’t necessarily overlap, so you aren’t always aware of how each effects the life as a whole. Visualizing changing the scope and scale of my observance, like the mechanic of this game really helped me find my own tools for checking in with my big picture.

I started realizing I concern myself a lot with things that just don’t matter on other scales, both too large and too small. For example, the checker at the grocery store doesn’t need to know anything about my thought experiments on the concept of self, nor my opinions the differences in the seasons of The Witcher. In the now of buying my groceries we gotta keep it simple and in the most common language. Though they may also be Witcher fans.

I just use small talk as a neutral example. I use this concept of adjusting scope and scale when I am caught in a feeling also. If I feel stuck, I try to adjust the scope and scale of my thinking. How long are the effects of whatever is bothering me going to last? Which parts of my life are affected? I can make choices without putting a hierarchy on facts over feelings. I find ways to deal with facts including my feelings. I can look out for myself and my goals, by adjusting my scope and scale.

Sauce Saturday: Domestic Blisters/Struggle Care

So I spend way too much of my time on TikTok, and one of the gems I have found is a creator called Domesic Blisters. She (KC Davis) also has a book and website, but I haven’t read the book.

Davis really gets nitty gritty about how to let yourself be not ok and still take care of yourself, your space and your family. Starting with the thing that got me hooked: “Care tasks are morally neutral, they are functional not moral”. While I was already on a path that was leading me to this very conclusion, those specific words have been a game changer.

The idea that your struggle does not make you a bad person, and that evidence of your struggle doesn’t either, is a wonderful weapon I use to fight shame messages in my thinking. If my house is messy but I can still find the things I need, then it is functional, there is no need for blame or shame around the mess.

By removing the layer of judgement inherit in seeing daily care tasks as moral rather than just functional, Davis, creates mental space to really look at enhancing functionality, and embracing individual strategies for arranging your life and space. She shows her audience the ways she does things that work for her and her particular struggles. She encourages us all to find the strategies that work with our personal tendencies and the life you have right now.

This ends up looking like storing things where they tend to end up anyway, or having collection baskets in those places. Even bagging up garbage to throw in the garbage if you can’t get to it right away or throwing away the dishes if necessary!! Your house, routines and stuff should serve you and support you and your life not the other way around.

If you like me sometimes have emotional reactions to daily care tasks, I absolutely encourage you to check out Domestic Blisters. If only to see how easily and thoughtfully she handles trolls. 🙂

Sauce Saturday: Kushiel’s Legacy

Image of Three Book covers titled:
Kushiel's Dart
Kushiel's Chosen
Kushiel's Avatar
all featuring a woman with a bared tattooed back.
I can only speak to these three.

This week I want to acknowledge all of the things that this book series opened my awareness to. Kushiel’s Legacy (the first trilogy), is an amazing fantasy novel series from the early 2000s by Jaqueline Carey. You can find more about her and them at: https://www.jacquelinecarey.com/kushiels-legacy-trilogies/

I will be vague about the details of the story and world building, both of which are excellent and very complicated. They center on a fantasy version of a pre-industrial France, with a complicated monarchy and polytheistic religion, including a goddess of sex work, Namaah. The story centers around a young woman born into service of this goddess, then thrust by circumstances and fate (or gods) into a life of intrigue.

Oh My! These books introduced me to concepts about consent, kink, legacies, parenting, fostering, international politics, polyamory, war, succession and so much more. It also put all of this into a world where every single one of these things is sacred.

It changed the way I look at love, my body, politics, desire, relationships, marriage, religion, duty, maybe everything. Not that these books are a bible or a text to live you life by, no not at all, but they did open my eyes and expand my imagination as to how things could be. Knowing that things could be different changed my life.

I am rereading Kushiel’s Chosen right now, and while I have a different perspective on many things, I am grateful for the things I have learned from this series. I have grown a lot since I fell in love with Phedre, so glad her story opened so many doors for me.

Sauce Saturday Introduction

All information exists and is understood through context. The sources we root our ideas in have an impact on the directions of our conversations and the meanings behind them. If we do not discuss them they become subtext and invisible. While it is not essential to eliminate all subtext from communication, it is valuable to discuss our sources from time to time.

This (hopefully weekly) feature of BTiOLW, will give me a chance to share my sources, and inspirations, also known in some internet circles as “The Sauce”, giving relative context to the topics discussed and lead to better nuance and mutual understanding.

The first “Sauce” I would like to feature is the work of Brene Brown, especially the book, Daring Greatly. Which I do not remember specifics about but have absorbed a lot of the ideas presented in her work and was inspired by, Daring Greatly, in particular to start this blog and be more vulnerable and out there. I just rewatched her TED talk, “The Power of Vulnerability“. It was just as powerful as the last time I watched it. She has such an authenticity of spirit, that is essential to encouraging others to be introspective about their lives.

Meanwhile I am taking the advice and not making a perfect post. I’m making a good enough post. Her work and ideas have an influence on the way I think and write, I am acknowledging that here, both in gratitude and for context into the future.